Dr. Darlene Treese
"My mother had a great deal of trouble with me, but I think she enjoyed it" --Mark Twain
One of my favorite cartoons shows a picture of a huge auditorium. The banner across the stage reads "Welcome Adult Children Of Functional Families." In the audience are only two people!
We've heard a lot about dysfunction in families - so much so that we have come to the conclusion that we have been robbed of a 'normal, happy' childhood, and thus have excuses for our behaviors because of that early deprivation. Get real. Mom and Dad were not the perfect parents... and you were not the perfect child. The good news is that it's never too late to give to yourself whatever has been lacking.
You are in charge of your life now. You cannot blame the past or anyone in the past for what you are doing today. Even if you come up with a very convincing argument, how does it make your life better? Blaming the past is like blaming gravity when you drop a glass and it breaks. It's true that without gravity the glass would not have fallen. But you live on earth and you know about gravity. Your childhood is like gravity. It was what it was. Today is like a glass. Treat it with respect and care. If it breaks, it's no one's fault. Clean up the mess and get another glass from the cupboard. Each day is a new beginning.
In celebration of Moms present and past - and all of those women who have been motherly toward us - let's identify the very best qualities of our feminine side. If these have been part of your upbringing or present experiences - rejoice!! If they are what you always wanted, but never received - now is the time to give to yourself through gentle words and actions. Consider how you are expressing these qualities to yourself and to others in your life.
Dr. Darlene Treese, LPC, LMHC has been in private practice in hypnosis, coaching, counseling and consulting for over 30 years. She has been internationally acknowledged for her positive action and solution-based therapies with individuals, groups and corporations. "A person for the people," Dr. Dar is always available to help you get a grip on life, health and happiness to take that next step forward in creating the life you truly desire. She offers sessions at her Orlando office, as well as telephone and email consultations.
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